Wedding Guest List: Who Do You Have To Invite?

Wedding guest list

Creating your wedding guest list can be stressful. You’re deciding who to invite to basically the biggest party of your life. Of course, you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings by not inviting them, but each guest adds to your budget. Check out the planner I’m currently using for guest planning here! Obviously you can’t invite everyone you’ve ever known, but there are certain family members and friends who will be important to invite. So, how do you create your wedding guest list? Who do you have to invite?

Wedding guest list: who do you have to invite?

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Family To Invite

  • Parents
  • Siblings
  • Grandparents
  • Aunts/Uncles
  • Cousins
  • Anyone you spend major holidays with

Family members that you have known for many years will usually make the guest list, unless you are having a small, intimate wedding. As a rule, if you have seen/talked to them in the last 12-18 months (possibly more since COVID has changed so many occasions) then they are close enough to be invited to your wedding. If you invite one of your uncles, you should probably invite all of your uncles. Check out these cute invitations that you can find right on Amazon!

Wedding guests at beach wedding.

Friends To Invite

  • Childhood Friends (That you’re still in contact with)
  • College/School Friends
  • Work Friends

When inviting friends, it’s important to draw a “closeness” line. If it’s someone you see and talk to each day, they’re probably close enough to invite. If you haven’t talked to the person in a few years, you might want to wait. You can wait until after some RSVPs come back to decide whether or not to invite more people.

Wedding planning list: Who do you have to invite?

Who are you inviting to your wedding? Who are the guests most important to you, especially in times when weddings have to be smaller? Check out my post on hiring a wedding planner during COVID here!

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  1. One detail you should discuss more is to determine your budget and the absolute max number of people you can invite that fits within it. This helps make decisions in you can even a group of people or not.

    1. Yes definitely! I’m planning lots of stuff about wedding budgets!

  2. I agree – deciding who to invite to your wedding can be overwhelming. I can only imagine what it must be like for brides- and grooms- to-be now. Thanks for helping narrow it down.

    1. You’re welcome! I’m currently working on my own list now!

  3. love the clarity of this post.
    I really enjoyed reading the sections that explained who to invite to your wedding.
    sure, it is the biggest party of your life.
    thanks for sharing this post.

  4. Great tips! I am a day of wedding coordinator and I will be sharing these suggestions for wedding invites ❤️ thanks for sharing!

    1. That would be great! Thanks for reading!

  5. thanks for these, sometimes it can be overwhelming and you do not want to hurt others feelings but Im sticking to close family and relatives first 🙂

    1. Yes me too! I worry so much about others feelings but its YOUR wedding!

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